The Breakup Song

One of the women at my work told me that she had this really angry breakup song that she would just blare every time she caught herself thinking about her ex.  But I’m not an angry person.  Sure, I have moments of anger toward the terrible way that my ex left me and the immaturity he showed during and after the breakup, but overall, it was a great relationship, and, even though he’s going through a dark spot in his life – underneath it he is a good person.  I will always care about him and have a soft spot for him.  Therefore, an angry breakup song just doesn’t feel right, and makes my skin crawl a little bit.  Moving on shouldn’t involve trying to develop angry thoughts toward someone that hurt you once that loved you deeply for a lot longer.

But I thought about the breakup song idea any way.  What would be my breakup song?  Disturbed: “I’m Alive?”, “Spit it Out,” Slipknot?  I like a lot of heavy metal …  Then I realized I needed some that would perk me up and make me thankful for my life’s experiences – not angry.

So, I think I’ve settled for Bob Marley’s “No woman, no cry.”

“Good friends we have had, oh good friends we’ve lost along the way
In this bright future which is life you can’t forget your past
So dry your tears I say…
No woman, no cry”

That line resonates with me.  My future is BRIGHT.  My past was great.  Sure, I’ve lost great friends – but I HAD them.  And I still have lots of them, and I making new ones.  I go on.  That’s what you should feel when listening to a breakup song: Hope and Happiness, not anger and hate.

"Nuh woman nuh cry!!! No, no, no -- Please don't shed no tear!!"