I take a deep breath. Stretch. I’m just got off my loveseat, where I was curled so happily up with my little fuzzy man (who just knocked my drying rack over, complete with all that were on it…), digesting a great meal, digesting the end of an incredibly stressful past few weeks. Time to let a few thoughts out.
Thursday was a big day for me. I had an enormous presentation to give, a test that would decide the next few years of my life and my future career options… It went terribly. It was the worst performance I’ve ever given. I stumbled over words, stared blankly when asked questions, repeated myself over and over, and then was told that I didn’t know how to write a proposal or make a presentation. Ugh. And, yet, they passed me: with the exception I need to add more to my proposal within the next two weeks. All my friends and family said “Congratulations! We’re so proud!” But passing didn’t feel like a good thing.
I did not feel proud. I felt ultra depressed, like I was just being pushed through the system, and I hadn’t really been worthy of passing. Maybe I am a horrible presenter and writer (despite all my past successes I’ve had). I know a lot of the mean things said by one individual to me may have been spurred by politics withing the group I was presenting to, but still I cried on my walk home. I finally understand the term “tears welled up in her eyes.” Blink, blink, blink, blink. Then I saw the ex’s bike. The person I use to share everything with – my best friend of the past seven years, who didn’t even know I had this exam or that I had just passed this exam.
Thoughts race: “What the fuck did the last 7 years mean to you, asshole? Was it just for sex? Do you not care at all about me as a person? What did I do to have you block me from your life? Do you think you are protecting me like this? Are you absurdly guilty? (part of me hopes you are) Your silence is just making me lose what little faith I have left about the person that I think you are.” Blink, blink, blink, splash… I went home and worked a baby quilt for a friend. I finished it yesterday and am very proud of that, at least.
Ended the week well, however. Lovely dinner with friends last night, and then a movie at Just Friend’s place that took my mind off of all events and made me feel a whole lot better about how awkward I am. I spent the night cuddled up in his arms. It was the first time either of us could really relax as all impending deadlines had been lifted for both of us. So we slept and slept and slept, and didn’t set an alarm. Got up reaaaaaaaallllllyyyyy late, and decided to have late brunch at the diner next store.
Which brings me to the title of the post.
“Walk right in, it’s around the back
Just a half a mile from the railroad track
You can get anything you want, at Alice’s Restaurant.”
Only, it’s not. There’s a front entrance, and I have no idea how close the nearest rail is anymore. And it’s not called Alice’s. But is a diner, and they do have a good selection.
So brunch. Nasty, greasy diner food to hit the spot after a long, stressful week. Me sitting across from Just Friend with a smile and shiny eyes. Him with whipped cream on his nose from his hot chocolate. We eat and laugh and talk, and then … who the fuck walks through the door… “You can get anything you want…” and things you DONT want, apparently. I dive behind the booth partition. WHAT THE HELL. Just Friend raises an eyebrow, and I explain that my ex just walked in.
Entrance blocked.
So, Just Friend suggests I get more coffee and maybe we stay a bit longer. Share a banana split. He keeps me smiling and laughing, but I can hear my ex’s loud voice and raucous laugh, and if I lean just this way … I can see his face through the booth partition lattice. GRR. I start to seethe. And then start hucking creamer and jelly packets at Just Friend, because he suggested that I do that instead of huck them at the ex. What the hell?! I repeat: what the hell? There are 100’s of restaurants in this area. Why this one? Why at this random hour? Why when I’m having a great time? Why always when he’s the last thing from my mind? I hate that the reminder of him brings out these feelings. I just want to be like: “C’est La Vie” – smile and wave and carry on, but I am still hurting and angry at him for the self-centered, hurtful way in which he ended our relationship. So cowardly and emotionally withdrawn. I understand people aren’t at their best when they are hurting or upset, but, seriously … people can be that bad??
I’m not sure he saw me. I don’t care if he did. If he did, I hope it made him feel uncomfortable. The ex and his group left before we did. When we left, I managed to get into my car, have the ex pull out in front of me when I turned the corner, and followed his stupid car half way home. For the record: hate you, one way streets.
But, whatever. I’m going to go get cutiesied up, get some free beer, and then go out with Just Friend and other friends to a show tonight at a cafe. Just Friend knows the singer. It should be good.